Twenty years ago today I met a man.
My friend Zoe said she knew this one was
different because of the way I said it.
I was in Victoria, British Columbia, traveling alone and
minding my own business. I went to a Greek restaurant the first night, and it was pretty early so I was the first one there. Soon afterward, a
single man came in, and I could tell the host was making a joke about seating
him with the single woman – me. Yeah, ha ha, very funny. Anyway, they seated
him a few tables behind me. I got my moussaka, which was cold in the middle so
I sent it back to get reheated. The place started filling up a bit, and I finished my meal and
left.
The next night I decided to go to an Italian place. When I
went in I was seated in a little alcove at the back, but I asked if I could sit
further up where I could look out the window. So they moved me. Awhile later a
single man was seated at the table next to me – they had also tried to seat him
at the back, but he asked to sit nearer the window. When I got my meal he
leaned over and said, in a lovely British-accented voice, "I hope your
meal is warmer than it was last night." I did a kind of double take, and
said "Were you..?" He nodded and said Yes, he had seen me at the Greek restaurant the night before. Yada, yada, yada, a little chit chat, and then he
left me alone to eat in peace. When he got his meal, I noticed he had ordered
the same as me, so I commented on that. A little more chit chat, then back to our
privacy. By the end of the meal we started chatting again, asking where each
other was from and all that, so he asked if I'd like to go have a drink. I had to
weigh up whether I was going to miss watching Seinfeld back in my hotel room,
but I figured I could catch it in reruns. (In fact, I didn't see that
particular episode, "Even Steven," until 2007.) The hostess and
waitress were grinning and nodding at us as we left together.
We walked, we talked, we had a drink, we wandered through
The Empress Hotel.
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| Mr. S at the Empress Hotel |
We exchanged addresses and decided we would meet for
breakfast before I went to the ferry and headed home to Seattle. He was in
Victoria for one more day before flying back to the UK after being in Canada
for a month.
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| me in front of Victoria harbor - you can't see the lights of the Parliament building behind me |
We met for breakfast and talked some more. He walked me back
to my car, and we hugged and said goodbye. I got on the ferry and felt so sad - I'd
just met this man, but my life already felt empty without him. We started writing to each other right away, and he eventually phoned me. More letters, more phone calls, then trips across the pond. A little more than a year and a half later he proposed by sending a humongous
flower arrangement to work with a note –
Please marry me. I replied via telegram –
Yes.
And the rest is history!
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| the proposal bouquet |
Except there's all the spooky, psychic, Holy-Shit! stuff
that surrounded the whole story. Do you want to hear that? Do you have time?
Well, okay then.
I had been to see a psychic astrologer few months before. He
told me I would meet a Sagittarian man, and that a Gemini woman would be
involved somehow. Right before I went to Victoria I had been staying with a
friend on Orcas Island in Washington State. I actually rearranged my travel
dates to accommodate her, and although that might not have made a difference,
she is a Gemini. So when I met Mr. S, I managed to steer the conversation to
astrological signs, and I found out he was a Sagittarius! My jaw almost dropped.
The night we met, I dreamed that I was on a movie set in an
Asian land. The setting included a pergola with ornate carved and painted designs, and
there were also silk banners. The predominant colors were red and yellow. There
were lots of actors (including Meryl Streep) who were in a scene for a group
wedding. I stepped up to the pergola to be married, and Mr. S was by my side.
In the dream I was thinking very clearly, "This isn't a movie, this is
real."
Mr. S had also been to see a psychic. As soon as he walked
in the room she said she had an impression of lenses. He'd been working with
cameras and video production ever since video cameras were made, so he was
inclined to listen to what she said after that. She told him America would figure
prominently in his life, and she mentioned a name that began with V - Valerie or Victoria, he's not sure which one it was.
He was at a turning point in his life, and he got this very
clear mental message telling him to go to Canada. He started planning a trip,
and he received a tax refund for the exact amount of money he figured he would
need.
The night we met, he dreamed that we were in a red sports
car together, driving away from some ruins.
After we'd been writing to each other for about a month, he surprised me
by phoning. He called on the day my favorite uncle had died. We
talked for about 45 minutes – I hate to think what it cost. More letters, phone
calls, trips back and forth.
I spent six months living with him in England before we got married,
the longest I was allowed to stay as a tourist. He was working on a video
program about a Buddhist group who lived in an old stately home. I was with him
on the shoot, and then we spent a weekend reviewing all the footage. I realized I
was looking at ornate Asian designs in carvings, paintings, and silky fabrics, mostly
in red and yellow - exactly like in the dream I'd had on the night we met!
The date we picked for our wedding turned out to be the birthday of my late uncle -
I didn't know it until after the date was set. We were married at my parents' house, and then I moved to England.
In 2001 we were back in Victoria. We did a home exchange that included use of a car - a red sports car.
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| 2001 in front of the Empress Hotel |
And today is Victoria Day in Canada - is that perfect or what!
Just one other thing I have to tell you – after the
first night Mr. S had seen me eating alone in Victoria, he stalked me. He
figured I was traveling alone and would be eating out again, so the second
night he was actually looking for me.
And thank heavens he found me!
Val